My apologies, the following post may have some redeeming value:
Have you ever said to someone “Let’s agree to disagree”? Have you ever been satisfied by this statement? The problem is that most people do NOT agree to disagree. When someone says, “Let’s agree to disagree”, what they are really saying is “May we NEVER speak of this again.” Think about it; take a moment to evaluate your close relationships, the people you actually care about. How many of your true friends can you say you have fundamental disagreements?
Go ahead. How many? I’ll wait…
If you can name at least one friend, consider yourself lucky. Yes, I said lucky. A friend that cares about you and has contrary views on life will only serve to strengthen your beliefs. And if they change some of your beliefs, then they needed to be changed.
I just finished reading an email from my friend Mark. I know Mark from church. I go to a great church. My family and I are very happy, but my intention is not talk to you about religion. If that is what you want, I would suggest a different blog. My point is that Mark and I have had an ongoing political discussion ever since Obama was elected president. Our views are very, very different. I am not going to discuss what our views are and how they differ, but I will tell you that I LOVE discussing opposing views with someone who is thoughtful, intelligent and non-judgmental. Granted, I think Mark is wrong on most points he makes, and I probably disagree with some points that I actually don’t disagree with just to make him mad, but I definitely consider him a friend and do NOT shy away from hanging with him or talking to him on just about any subject. Oh yea, Mark is the pastor of the church. Neat huh?
So, what prevents you from being friends with someone with opposing views? Are you afraid that they will convince you that you are wrong? Does Health Care really offend you? Does life only make sense when you are surrounded by people that agree with you? Let me leave you with one of the greatest statements ever told to me, by my friend Dave from graduate school. I am going to capitalize it for emphasis, cause I love it that much:
THE MOST OPEN MINDED PEOPLE YOU WILL EVER MEET ARE PEOPLE THAT THINK LIKE YOU.
Think about it. Are you open minded? Or just to the people that think like you?
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Why do restaurants like Dennys and Perkins still exist? Who is keeping these restaurants in business? I get McDonald’s. It’s fast and super cheap. But why choose to sit, wait and most likely tip a waiter/waitress for crappy food? And if you think Dennys and/or Perkins are good eats, consider yourself banned from my blog for at least a month. I’m just sayin…
I am Mark and even though I am right and this wonderful person is wrong- I love this guy!!!!!!! And this is a great post!
Will, my boyfriend of 5 years (yes, we are still together), and I have very differing views on the government’s responsibility towards its citizens and the government’s role in people’s lives but we agree to disagree. It hasn’t effected our relationship the least bit. What matters to me though is the humanitarian aspect and in that we have the same political views (social liberal), but he’s a fiscal conservative. He affectionately calls me “my little pinko” 🙂
Hey lil bro.
You are such a wise man and I love your blog. I actually have a number of friends that have quite different views. Even Gerald and I have opposing views. (religion, education and politics)…..and you know how I feel about JOBs….you couldn’t give me one. Not right…not wrong….it just is.
Oops, I ate at Denny’s tonight.